Gave my bub a bottle for the first time. :(

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Gave my bub a bottle for the first time. :(

Post by Elizabby » Sun Jul 07, 2013 8:05 am

This is just a whinge, I already know there is nothing I can do about the situation.

My youngest has been weaned for almost 3 weeks now, but last night was the first time *I* sat down and gave her a bottle. Usually other people do it because I didn't think I could - and it was hard. I held her the way I usually do (cradle hold) and she just cuddled down and took the bottle happily and made no indication that she even remembered there was such a thing as breast milk. :(

This is good for her, I know that. It means that she has adjusted to the new way of things and no longer misses what she can't have. It means that other people can feed her and meet her needs while I am in hospital (going back next week) and that she is not hanging out for milk that isn't there.

Still sad. :(
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Post by ~WildChild~ » Sun Jul 07, 2013 8:19 am

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Post by Karleen » Sun Jul 07, 2013 9:08 am

Oh sweetheart it is hard. Bottle feeding is not breastfeeding but it can be a really wonderful way of connecting emotionally with your baby. I've btdt with my daughters. Maybe it might be helpful to thing about bottle feeding not as a replacement for breastfeeding but as something that gives you emotional closeness in a different way. (((())))

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Post by Penguin » Sun Jul 07, 2013 9:10 am

Oh course you're sad Elizabby xx :(
What are you giving her in the bottles?
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Post by Mummy woo! » Sun Jul 07, 2013 9:50 am

Hugs Elizabby - that must have been really tough for you.

It is great that she has adjusted so quickly to the sudden weaning and shows how much care you have taken to raise a secure, happy little girl. Be proud of that.
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Post by s squirrel » Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:01 am

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Post by marie7 » Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:40 am

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Post by JMc » Sun Jul 07, 2013 1:22 pm

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Post by ClOuD_NiNe » Sun Jul 07, 2013 4:31 pm

Big hugs. I agree with Karleen that bottle feeding can be a lovely way to connect with your LO. I weaned DS at 10 months to get my cycles back so we could TTC, he switched from breast to bottle with such ease that I felt a little rejected. At almost 2 he still loves his bottles and its a nice way to wind down for us both (and DH) as part of the bedtime routine. For a while there he would only accept a bottle from DH or I, it was like that was his special 'thing' that he did just with us :D
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Post by manomummy » Sun Jul 07, 2013 6:12 pm

Hugs !@~@~!group hug. Is it possible to develop a new routine where only you give her a bottle when you are around (if this helps you with the emotions of weaning).
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Post by Esther » Sun Jul 07, 2013 6:45 pm

Hugs. It's going to be hard. Your friends in the computer are here xo
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Post by Monicat » Sun Jul 07, 2013 8:05 pm

Just wanted to give you some hugs, it must be such a hard thing to do, even though there really is no choice xxxx

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Post by Elizabby » Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:46 pm

Penguin wrote: What are you giving her in the bottles?
Just regular cow milk. She seems to like it. She's 15 months now and eats everything in sight so we didn't bother with formula - just went straight to cow milk.
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