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forced weaning: make it permanent or reinstate?

Posted: Sun Dec 28, 2014 7:56 pm
by kellonye
Hi, first time here. My son is 10.5months and until the last 3 days we have both been enjoying our breastfeeding relationship (though he does tend to only feed for 1-2min at a time (4-5times a day), as he likes to get back to play. I breast fed my daughter till she was 18months, but planned to wean him around the 12-13mth mark because I want to conceive again and, unlike 8years ago with his big sister, my cycle has not returned, despite night weaning (except when teething or sick) for past 2.5mths. However circumstances involving medication I've had to take (severe allergic reaction requiring 10days of steroids and antibiotics, can't breastfeed while taking) has forced him and I to go without these past three days. First two days were hell (mostly for him), he was so upset and angry at me, grabbing and making his desperate 'i want breast' sounds...sister was the same for about a day, so wasn't unexpected. But today he has been great, seems to have substituted 'asking' for lots of firm cuddles and drinking lots of water from sippy cup (hasn't taken a bottle since 6mths...our bad for not keeping the habit up, so won't take formula or even breast milk (from freezer) in bottle or cup...only water).

My question is, and I realise this is very subjective, but I'd appreciate different views/experiences, is it better to fully wean him (since he seems to have accepted it and settled happily into solids and water, and cuddles) than to wean for 10days, the return him to breastfeeding only to take it away from him again in 4-8weeks? Obviously physically it's great to continue as much as possible, but I'm worried going through it all again will be really upsetting for him (again).

After the 10days, I could try feeding him expressed breast milk in his sippy cup (for another month or so), but honestly not sure if he'll take it.

Thoughts?

Re: forced weaning: make it permanent or reinstate?

Posted: Sun Dec 28, 2014 9:19 pm
by MamaMagoO?
Gosh. That's a really tough one. I think only you can decide the answer on this one. How are you feeling about your breastfeeding journey being cut short?? Do you think it might be easier on your both to be able to do it more gradually over the next few months rather than the sudden ending you have had?? It is possible that the 3 days break from breastfeeding you have had might be enough to kick-start your cycles so weaning to conceive may not be necessary. It is also possible that your DS is ready to move on now that he has had 3 days without and might not be keen to come back to the breast even if you want him too. I would be a bit concerned about him not having any breastmilk/formula any other way as it is a really important part of their diet at this age. But at the same time I can certainly see your point that you have been through the hard part of weaning now so you don't want to go through it again. You could try mixing either EBM or formula in with his solids to make sure he is still getting it for a bit longer.

Hope that helps. If you need some help sorting through your feelings and figuring out what is best you could always give the Helpline a call and chat to a counsellor. Weaning can be a very emotional time even when we are ready for it but when it happens suddenly and unexpectedly it can be quite a shock. Go easy on yourself.

Re: forced weaning: make it permanent or reinstate?

Posted: Mon Dec 29, 2014 7:36 am
by Yankee
Oh big hugs my dear that sounds tough on both of you! I honestly think only you can decide but unless you're expressing to keep up your supply there's a good chance that even if you do offer the breast your baby might not be interested and/or your supply may not be there. Not a guarantee by any means, but just something to be aware of.

I second the notion that you may want to consider mixing up some formula to use in cereal/baking, just to make sure bubs is getting the nutrients he would be getting from BM. Don't beat yourself up about the bottle, cups are just fine and that way hyou won't have the struggle of trying to wean off the bottle that some parents have!

Re: forced weaning: make it permanent or reinstate?

Posted: Wed Dec 31, 2014 8:11 am
by Penguin
Did you make a decision? Hugs x

forced weaning make it permanent or reinstate

Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2017 5:03 pm
by HanDwevy
Our paediatrician has told us to start considering solids for our 5 month old daughter in a few weeks. We want to attempt baby led weaning, letting her explore food, but she is not yet sitting up. I dont think her motor skills are quite strong enough either.

Has anyone started with baby food purŠ¹ed, mash, etc and then moved onto baby led weaning? How was this, in your experience?