Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

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Feebes
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Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Feebes » Sun Apr 05, 2015 8:36 pm

I had an appointment at Relationship Australia (I think its called?) and talked to them about trying to get the kids back into my care more. After chatting for a while, it seemed that they would refer me to another organisation where the children are appointed a counsellor each and worked through what they wanted to do (and what their needs were) and then they would bring that info back to the table for X and I to look at and work out from there as to how many nights that would spend at my house and X's.

I have decided that when the mediation process is happening, that I will not have X in the room. I would just feel more comfortable that way and hopefully my emotions will be more intact. :roll:

They are ringing me soon, so I have have my first appointment with them and go from there. X doesn't know that I am seeking mediation, but where I am going will handle all of that. If X refuses to attend mediation, they can supply documentation for me to apply to go to the Family Court. I honestly don't want to do that though.

I have been advised though to register for legal aid, just so as I've got some sort of legal advice on board, especially since X has brought up about moving away from the kids.

Feeling ok about this so far.

Also, I spoke to them about a intervention order. I told them that I don't really want to do it as if involves the kids too much. I have decided that in the agreements that we draw up, that I will specify that he is not allowed in my house and that I will not tolerate any verbal or emotional abuse from him. I think having it in documentation will be a good thing. If it gets ignored, I will be taking it up with the police though.

I have a social worker which I have seen twice and its good having that support.

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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by ~WildChild~ » Sun Apr 05, 2015 8:51 pm

Sounds like you've got a plan happening, Feebes. I hope it all works out well for you and the kids xx
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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Apr 05, 2015 11:01 pm

Sounds like you are on the right track and your social worker and Relationships Australia are giving you lots of information.

You can do this. One step at a time :)
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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by JMc » Mon Apr 06, 2015 6:30 am

Sounds good. So glad that you are able to access great support. Hope X gets on board for the kids' sake.
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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Jenbt85 » Mon Apr 06, 2015 6:37 pm

Sounds like a good plan :)
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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Yankee » Mon Apr 06, 2015 9:36 pm

Hopefully this will give you a chuckle but I read the subject as 'child focused meditation', right up to when you're doing the meditation you don't want your X in the room and I thought 'that makes sense but why would he be involved and why is relationships Australia involved oh wait she wrote MEDIATION'.

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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Feebes » Mon Apr 06, 2015 10:35 pm

Yankee wrote:Hopefully this will give you a chuckle but I read the subject as 'child focused meditation', right up to when you're doing the meditation you don't want your X in the room and I thought 'that makes sense but why would he be involved and why is relationships Australia involved oh wait she wrote MEDIATION'.

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That is amusing. Every time I got to type mediation, I either want to type medication or meditation!

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Re: Child focused mediation, working through shared care.

Post by Westaussie77 » Mon Apr 06, 2015 10:57 pm

Yes I also read it quickly as meditation not mediation ....LOL...glad I am not the only one ;)
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