Emptiness

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Westaussie77
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Emptiness

Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Oct 21, 2012 1:55 am

Hi

Sorry but this is the only place I feel like I can say this

I am doing lots in life, but feel it is nothing without having a significant other to share it with.

I've just been kidfree for the school holidays which has increased this emptiness, and I know I will be childfree for Christmas. Not sure how I will get through that one. Again this weekend my children are awat.

I know others experience this from time to time......

Just really saying this... you know what I mean
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Post by JMc » Sun Oct 21, 2012 5:09 am

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Post by mooki » Sun Oct 21, 2012 9:15 am

:smt049
Im listening

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Post by DellaWellaWoman » Sun Oct 21, 2012 10:04 am

{{{hugs}}}
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Post by JennyD » Sun Oct 21, 2012 10:37 am

{{{hugs}}}

By the way, when DH came back from the autism conference, he couldn't believe you were single. He couldn't believe some great guy hadn't come and snapped you up. :)

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Post by mooki » Sun Oct 21, 2012 11:21 am

JennyD wrote:{{{hugs}}}

By the way, when DH came back from the autism conference, he couldn't believe you were single. He couldn't believe some great guy hadn't come and snapped you up. :)
:smt044

thats so sweet!

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Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Oct 21, 2012 7:29 pm

People (mostly those who are still happily married) have said it (solo parenting) will get easier as your children get older. After 6 and a half years - they are no longer a baby and toddler, it changes, but I don't know if it gets easier.
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Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Oct 21, 2012 7:50 pm

Now I have been told the first 12mths post ASD diagnosis are the worst. This will never be over.
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Post by Andypandy » Sun Oct 21, 2012 9:27 pm

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Post by Penguin » Sun Oct 21, 2012 9:32 pm

Westaussie77 wrote:People (mostly those who are still happily married) have said it (solo parenting) will get easier as your children get older. After 6 and a half years - they are no longer a baby and toddler, it changes, but I don't know if it gets easier.
My mum (solo parent) always says that she found evenings the hardest, once we were all in bed and she was alone. What she has said sounds a lot like what you are saying, do you find that evenings are difficult?


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Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Oct 21, 2012 10:57 pm

Yes evenings are hard, but okay cause I can check on them sleeping and alot of the time my ASD son co-sleeps.

When the kids are away or knowing they will be away for special events is hard
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Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Oct 21, 2012 11:10 pm

Thanks for all you support.
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Post by Carrie » Mon Oct 22, 2012 8:56 am

My single SIL planned special projects for when her kids were away for more than a night or two - usually craft stuff that she couldn't really do with the kids around. She said she was luckier than when she was married, because she got those blocks of time to herself. I know she didn't really feel lucky, but tried hard to be positive about it - and her projects certainly kept her busy!
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Post by Westaussie77 » Mon Oct 22, 2012 12:31 pm

Hi Carrie,

I have been doing that for the past 6 years - making me time, booking massages, going to concerts etc, but I do all this wonderful stuff and still come home to an empty house. It is just the way it is and I need to accept that

Thanks
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