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Feebes
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Post by Feebes » Sat Jun 02, 2012 12:23 am

mummakrissy wrote:i'm ready to shoot the bloody cows!

and i just found out that a friend of mine... has sent him a message saying that she is thinking of him, hope he is ok, acknowldeges that it must have been a hard decision to make and that she hopes i don't "turn it into an i hate B fest".

i have not said a bad word about him. i have layed out what happened but i have not, in any public way, said anything bad.

i cant believe, that someone i have supported and counselled so much over the last few years is being like this. so much for friends.
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Post by Esther » Sat Jun 02, 2012 9:24 am

Oops, sorry that cows are playing up still :?

And hugs. It's all sounding very confusing and discombobulating for you right now with everything that's going on :(

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Post by Little Tiggermum » Sat Jun 02, 2012 9:50 am

Stuff the cows, shoot her!!!
Sorry:oops:
Let us know what we can do to help...hopefully he'll come around soon
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Post by s squirrel » Sat Jun 02, 2012 10:46 am

Little Tiggermum wrote:Stuff the cows, shoot her!!!
Sorry :oops:
Let us know what we can do to help...hopefully he'll come around soon
I am totally on board with LTM's line of thought!!
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if you can't run, then walk,
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Post by mummakrissy » Sat Jun 02, 2012 5:09 pm

he's not going to 'come around'. he looked me in the eyes this morning and told he that he has NO love left for me, that he is not interested in any chance of us reuniting. He hasn't been in love with me for over a couple of years... his heart left me long ago. :(

i really never thought this would be my story... i didn't think this would happen to me. oh how life can change totally in a week. He has had the kids today, so i've had some quiet time to myself.

i can't hate the world when i am out in the round yard with my horses with the sun shining on me. but it's still sad.

thank you for all the support. i really appreciate it.
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Post by 3 Little Woody's » Sat Jun 02, 2012 6:18 pm

Little Tiggermum wrote:Stuff the cows, shoot her!!!
Sorry:oops:
Let us know what we can do to help...
I think your fb posts have been very dignified TBH and if my "friends" made those sort of comments I'd probably scream at them. :evil: :(

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Post by JC » Sat Jun 02, 2012 6:25 pm

That person is not a good friend atm. I hope you have some more supportive people around just for you.
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Post by Westaussie77 » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:53 am

Financially I was told first port of call post separation is Child Support as Centrelink can backdate to separation date, but Child Support Agency can only claim from the day you inform them.

Also the Family Relationship Centre can provide information and support around Parenting Plans and Property Settlement etc

Just take one step at a time, it is all you can really do. Wishing you all the best through this part of your journey
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Post by Hippie » Sun Jun 03, 2012 10:02 pm

Huge hugs gorgeous woman! You will get through this, you are an amazing, strong woman, here for a chat anytime :smt056
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Post by misspurr » Tue Jun 05, 2012 11:13 pm

You probably don't want to hear this....but it sounds to me like he's having an affair. Please get the best possible legal advice you can to ensure you and your kids have the best possible financial outcome.

Whenever I have known a man to leave and the woman to say "But our relationship was fine"...he's been @#$%^&* around.

Be careful.

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Post by mooki » Tue Jun 05, 2012 11:58 pm

Oh Kristin Im so sorry :(

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Post by DrJeckle&Hyde » Thu Jun 07, 2012 2:31 pm

Hugs :( sending lots if hugs and love x
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Post by Feather » Thu Jun 07, 2012 3:15 pm

More hugs from me. :smt056 How you goin this week?
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Post by Vahvempi » Tue Jun 12, 2012 11:49 am

misspurr wrote:You probably don't want to hear this....but it sounds to me like he's having an affair.

Whenever I have known a man to leave and the woman to say "But our relationship was fine"...he's been @#$%^&* around.
I know both MK & her XDP and it is HIGHLY unlikey he would have been as you said "@#$%^&* around"

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Post by s squirrel » Tue Jun 12, 2012 12:15 pm

Just more hugs from me
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if you can't run, then walk,
if you can't walk, then crawl,
but whatever you do you have to keep moving
forward.... – MLK

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