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Feather
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Post by Feather » Thu May 31, 2012 3:31 pm

So sorry to hear this, things were sounding so positive not long ago :( What BD said sounds like a good place to start. Big hugs. :smt056
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Post by Shelleybooby McBoobster » Thu May 31, 2012 3:37 pm

:-( I am so so so sorry and sad to hear about this Krissy.

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Post by Ms Dee » Thu May 31, 2012 5:21 pm

Oh Krissy. I hope you have some IRL support to help you. What an awful thing to have to hear. Is there anything we can do?
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Post by mummakrissy » Thu May 31, 2012 10:55 pm

Nedsmum wrote:How long have you been together ? Are you willing to try some relationship counselling ?
7 years and 6 months... i begged him to come to counselling, i begged him to stay, i pleaded with him to work it out. He is done. He has given up...

i thought we were fantastic. We working preparing for our wedding, we had worked through any issues i thought we had prior to getting engaged.

I never saw this coming. i am in shock and so is every one who knows us. No one expected it and everyone thought he adored me as much as i did.
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Post by mummakrissy » Thu May 31, 2012 11:00 pm

athome wrote:Oh Sweetheart im so sorry what an awful heartbreak you have had. All I can say is its less lonely being independent than it is being in a bad relationship and your kids want you to be with someone who loves you as much as they love you not with someone who doesnt deserve you so this change will benefit your LOs even if its hard to see that at the moment.
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i really agree with this. The thing is, we didn't have a bad relationship. We had fun, we enjoyed each others company, we worked well together, i thought we communicated well, we parent well and make decisions well together. Everyone around us thought we were a perfect little family. Two happy parents with a little pidgeon pair. No one saw this coming and no one had any idea that he didn't love me.

I think he is post natally depressed and that it has eaten away at our relationship. He won't admit that though.
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Post by mummakrissy » Thu May 31, 2012 11:01 pm

Red Mango wrote:WOW!!

not sure what to say...still.

however, i am still here when you feel you need me.

F me!!

As soon as you call for me, im there!!
thanks J. going ok. just plugging along with kids and farm stuff. had to chase cows of the road today and fix a fence!! Sara henderson eat your heart out!

See you monday and 'boob group??
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Post by JC » Thu May 31, 2012 11:52 pm

*hugs* and more *hugs*
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Post by Feebes » Thu May 31, 2012 11:59 pm

I am very shocked at your awful news.

Lots of hugs and thoughts going to you and your kids.

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Post by mrserin » Fri Jun 01, 2012 1:58 am

I don't have any new advice but *hugs*. So sorry to hear you have to go through this.
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Post by 3 Little Woody's » Fri Jun 01, 2012 7:09 am

Hugs MK.
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Post by Ms Dee » Fri Jun 01, 2012 12:40 pm

Relationship break ups are painful if the relationship is bad, I can't imagine the shock you must be feeling when the relationship was good.

Obviously he has some personal issues, if what he is saying is true and that he hasn't had feelings for you for 3 years. Seems very odd to stay in a relationship if that is indeed the case.

I don't know you or him, and this probably doesn't help, but it doesn't sound like it's a reflection on you but something going on within his own head.

Thinking of you x
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Post by Esther » Fri Jun 01, 2012 12:47 pm

!@~@~!group hug Thinking of you. Even as you chase the cows down the road :-D
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Post by JennyD » Fri Jun 01, 2012 3:33 pm

{{{hugs}}} thinking of you. I hope the cows' behaviour improves :)

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Post by Squip » Fri Jun 01, 2012 7:41 pm

Hugs MummaKrissy :-( so sorry to hear
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Post by mummakrissy » Sat Jun 02, 2012 12:17 am

i'm ready to shoot the bloody cows!

and i just found out that a friend of mine... has sent him a message saying that she is thinking of him, hope he is ok, acknowldeges that it must have been a hard decision to make and that she hopes i don't "turn it into an i hate B fest".

i have not said a bad word about him. i have layed out what happened but i have not, in any public way, said anything bad.

i cant believe, that someone i have supported and counselled so much over the last few years is being like this. so much for friends.
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