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What if?

Post by Penguin » Thu Feb 18, 2016 9:07 pm

Psychologist: Worrying can be helpful in normal situations because it helps you to work out what to do.
Me: I know. I'm really good at it.
Psychologist: But this isn't a normal situation. Worrying won't help.
Me: but what if I worry really, really hard?

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Re: What if?

Post by MamaMagoO? » Thu Feb 18, 2016 9:42 pm

Oh hun. I know that feeling, thankfully I am getting so much better now at recognising when my worrying is unhelpful and have even learned some techniques that help me let go of it. There is hope. You will get better. I'm so glad you're getting help. Anxiety is crap.

I am also pretty sure I have had this exact conversation with my DS, with me in the role of the the psych :? .
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Re: What if?

Post by Penguin » Thu Feb 18, 2016 10:02 pm

I still hold out hope. I just need to show her how hard I can worry and how good I am at it. Then she'll come around. :wink:

Actually, her response was 'are you magical?'
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Re: What if?

Post by MamaMagoO? » Thu Feb 18, 2016 10:08 pm

Penguin wrote: Actually, her response was 'are you magical?'
Oh she's good!!

... so are you???
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Post by Penguin » Thu Feb 18, 2016 10:25 pm

MamaMagoO? wrote:
Penguin wrote: Actually, her response was 'are you magical?'
Oh she's good!!

... so are you???
If only I was...

And she is quite excellent which, frankly, makes a lovely change.
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Re: What if?

Post by snowie » Fri Feb 19, 2016 2:20 am

Penguin wrote: And she is quite excellent which, frankly, makes a lovely change.
So glad you've found someone who 'gets' you. xx
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Re: What if?

Post by Mummy woo! » Fri Feb 19, 2016 7:28 am

She sounds like a great helper Penguin.

Once you win her over can we start making special requests for your magical powers. I would like Oobiwoo to get over his current virus so I can get some sleep. And some changes at work. I'm waiting 8)
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Re: What if?

Post by Penguin » Fri Feb 19, 2016 7:44 am

Can't help you MW. I'm on a worry ban. Sorry. You can take it up with my psychologist.

Also, I'm on a news ban for ONE MONTH. :shock: Can someone tell me if we get a new prime minister?
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Post by Esther » Fri Feb 19, 2016 9:07 am

Penguin wrote:Can't help you MW. I'm on a worry ban. Sorry. You can take it up with my psychologist.

Also, I'm on a news ban for ONE MONTH. :shock: Can someone tell me if we get a new prime minister?
Bahaha. Maybe. If it's interesting. Can we entertain you with snippets of silly news?
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Re: What if?

Post by MamaMagoO? » Fri Feb 19, 2016 12:54 pm

Penguin wrote:
MamaMagoO? wrote:
Penguin wrote: Actually, her response was 'are you magical?'
Oh she's good!!

... so are you???
If only I was...

And she is quite excellent which, frankly, makes a lovely change.
I like the sound of her very much.

I remember when my anxiety was at it worst feeling like if I stopped worrying then the bad things that I was worrying about would almost certainly happen. As if I could ward them off through the strength of my worry power. I didn't really believe that on an intellectual level but on an emotional level it was really hard to let go. I think I could have been helped a great deal by your psychologist.
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Post by Penguin » Sat Feb 20, 2016 5:55 pm

I'm really struggling with my news ban.
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Re: What if?

Post by Mummy woo! » Sat Feb 20, 2016 8:01 pm

What if I offered to call you if something interesting happens? Seriously, you can do without the news - they change it every day anyway :)
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Re: What if?

Post by MamaMagoO? » Sat Feb 20, 2016 9:02 pm

I've just sent you a little helper on FB because I couldn't figure out how to post here.

Just remember no news is good news :-D

And we promise to let you know if any thing important happens... Well we promise to let Mummy Woo! let you know. I haven't followed the news for years due to my anxiety issues so I'm no bloody help :roll:
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Re: What if?

Post by Penguin » Sun Feb 21, 2016 7:46 pm

MamaMagoO? wrote:I've just sent you a little helper on FB because I couldn't figure out how to post here.

Just remember no news is good news :-D

And we promise to let you know if any thing important happens... Well we promise to let Mummy Woo! let you know. I haven't followed the news for years due to my anxiety issues so I'm no bloody help :roll:
How could you message me on FB? I've deactivated it.
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Re: What if?

Post by Penguin » Sun Feb 21, 2016 8:38 pm

Maybe I haven't deactivated it properly?
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