Nice things to do for oneself

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Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Penguin » Sat Jan 16, 2016 7:05 pm

Ok all, I'm crowdsourcing my homework once again.

I need to come up with a list of nice things to do for myself. They can be small but I need to do something everyday :shock: and I'm at a loss. Throw ideas at me.
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Esther » Sat Jan 16, 2016 7:13 pm

Maybe don't aim too high. Look for little things? Craft for yourself, even if it was only 3 seconds? Enjoying a square of nice chocolate? Relishing a cup of tea when it hasn't gone cold?

How am I doing? Is it more a mindfulness thing, rather than ensuring you get an hour's quiet contemplation?
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Penguin » Sat Jan 16, 2016 7:49 pm

You're doing well Esther, that's the sort of thing. I have to do the other stuff too but i need little nice thing ideas. I suck at this so much.
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Mummy woo! » Sat Jan 16, 2016 8:07 pm

Sit outside quietly drinking one of those cups of tea.
Go for a short walk (like walk to get milk instead of drive)
You pick the story you read to your LO
Nice hand cream - take time to really massage it in for a few minutes - a nice smelling one from the supermarket needn't cost much more than sorbolene
DIsh up your dinner first and snaffle the good bits out of the salad :)
Choose peas instead of beans if you like peas best
Put your feet up while watching TV instead of trying to sort socks or 'get something done'

Are they the kinds of things you are looking for?
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by jessles » Sat Jan 16, 2016 8:48 pm

Read some of a book for yourself )maybe some mind-numbing fiction
Go to the toilet with the door shut and by yourself
Put on your fav song and sing/dance to it

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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by chiggins » Sat Jan 16, 2016 8:56 pm

Have that extra scoop of ice cream
Stop and really smell a rose
Buy the shoes you fell in love with
Eat the last Tim Tam
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Jenbt85 » Sun Jan 17, 2016 4:54 am

Glass of wine in a bubble bath with chocolate, a book and the door closed.

Cooking your favourite meal.

Catching up with a friend.

Cup of tea.

Painting your nails.

Stopping.

Listening to favourite songs / stuff from uni days usually cheers me up.

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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Andypandy » Sun Jan 17, 2016 9:50 am

Go get a manicure
Lie under a tree and read a book
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Post by Bailey's Mum » Sun Jan 17, 2016 5:09 pm

I have a list on the pantry door - DH brought it home from an appointment. Some of the ideas are a little lame, but happy to share it.
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Parla. » Sun Jan 17, 2016 6:03 pm

Some source of laughter, whether that's with a spouse or friend or a podcast or funny video.
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by DigDig » Sun Jan 17, 2016 7:45 pm

Dance around in a silly way to your favourite music (or without music!) for 5 minutes.
Just sit a look at the sky or the garden for five minutes outside
Read something, anything of your choice.
Put some nice quotes on your bedside table or wall in the bedroom and look at them every morning or before bed
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Post by Penguin » Sun Jan 17, 2016 11:20 pm

Well today I bought an oven tray I thought I would like as a nice thing.
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Post by Penguin » Mon Jan 18, 2016 9:31 pm

Today was bakery treats while perusing my favourite cookbook then buying ingredients to make something special.
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Jenbt85 » Mon Jan 18, 2016 9:32 pm

Penguin wrote:Today was bakery treats while perusing my favourite cookbook then buying ingredients to make something special.
This sound lovely :)
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Re: Nice things to do for oneself

Post by Esther » Mon Jan 18, 2016 10:38 pm

They all sound lovely Penguin. Hope you enjoyed the moments x
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