Breast Refusal resulting in Weaning

A baby's refusal to feed is a distressing time. Sometimes the refusal is outright; other times just an extreme fussiness. Usually it is temporary and the baby returns to the breast. Share your experiences and support one another through this tough time here.
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NightOwl
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Post by NightOwl » Mon Jun 10, 2013 11:52 pm

Thank you so much.
*DD 04/06 - mimi for 3 years, 7 months
*DS1 02/08 - mimi for 21 months
*DS2 05/10 - mimi with a nipple shield for 18 months
*DS3 05/12- mimi for a year

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Post by Andypandy » Tue Jun 11, 2013 7:14 am

For some reason I only just saw this.

I am so sorry T has weaned before you are ready. I think you worked so hard trying to get him back to the breast.

You are allowed to grieve this. It is totally normal and OK to do so.
Go gently x
DS1: May 09 Breastfed 2y7m
DS2: Oct 2012 Breastfed 2y1m I am pretending he is weaned
DD: Feb 2015

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Post by dellywatts » Tue Jun 11, 2013 1:08 pm

Big hugs NO.
I think one think you said really stood out to me "I just can't let it go"
That's going to be your hard part, coming to terms with it all. It wasn't what you had expected or built up in your mind how things would go and that's so difficult to get your head around.
It's like living your life as a square and suddenly someone tells you are a triangle. Having one path you've pictured in your mind and suddenly you're on a different path.
Given that Thomas is your last baby too I imagine that's much harder to deal with. It can often feel like breastfeeding connects you to your baby, keeps them a baby for longer. Comments about him being all grown up and independent can feel hurtful rather than encouraging.
DD1 ~ 9/2007
DS ~ 2/2009 bf for just over 4 yrs
DD2 ~ 3/2011 bf for nearly 2 yrs
DD3 ~ 12/2013 bfing

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Post by mrserin » Tue Jun 11, 2013 8:25 pm

Some great advice on this thread NO.

I agree with others about being gentle with yourself and allowing yourself whatever time you need to grieve this change. It takes some adjustment when you expect something to be one way as a parent and be presented with something else :(
Alice: June 07 (BF 1y5m)
Oscar: Jan 09 (BF 2y9m)
Lucy: March 11 (BF 3y and a few months)

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