Breast refusal/nipple confusion

A baby's refusal to feed is a distressing time. Sometimes the refusal is outright; other times just an extreme fussiness. Usually it is temporary and the baby returns to the breast. Share your experiences and support one another through this tough time here.
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Breast refusal/nipple confusion

Post by Mummyplus4 » Fri Sep 28, 2012 3:12 pm

At 3.5 months old we started to add 2 bottles of formula a day as we were having huge weight gain issues where my DS hadn't gained any weight in over 7weeks, however now he has started refusing the breast and won't feed, my dr has said that I could take the bottles away now that he has started putting weight on again however now it's too late because he prefers the bottle over the breast, I'd really like to try and get him back on full time I still have a supply as i have been expressing and i do manage to get DS on for a few sucks at a time through out the day,he is only 5 months old and would really like to get him to at least 12 months, I successfully got him to have a feed last night but that was the only breastfeed he had in 4 days.

If you have any tips/ suggestions how how I can get him back on full time please let me know..

Thank you.

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Post by strolltotheshops » Fri Sep 28, 2012 3:30 pm

I've found that all our babies have become quite interested in the world around them and distracted from feeding for a few months from 4 or 5 months of age. Often the only way I could get them to have a feed was to have a quiet feed lying down on our bed.

This page https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bf-info/breast-refusal has some tips about breast refusal.

Breastfeeding counsellors are available 24/7 by phone or email https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/breastfeeding-helpline and they would be able to talk you through some possible ways to bring him back to the breast.

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Post by Monicat » Fri Sep 28, 2012 10:17 pm

Some fantastic info here
http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/
http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/ ... e-formula/

I would try a weekend in bed where you both just lay around in bed as much as possible, you with no top on, him just in a nappy so lots of skin to skin contact with cuddles etc. Nice relaxed baths together, again lots of access to the boob. Will he feed from the breast at night while he is sleepy?

I am not a counsellor, so if you want a proper plan you should email or ring one of them. But there is some good info on bottle feeding a breastfed baby here https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/caregivers.html (about half way down the page) so maybe start using some of those techniques while feeding to mimmick him having to "work" to get the milk out of the breast.

Good luck, keep us updated with your progress :)
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Post by AbbeyCat » Fri Sep 28, 2012 10:32 pm

strolltotheshops wrote:I've found that all our babies have become quite interested in the world around them and distracted from feeding for a few months from 4 or 5 months of age. Often the only way I could get them to have a feed was to have a quiet feed lying down on our bed.

This page https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bf-info/breast-refusal has some tips about breast refusal.

Breastfeeding counsellors are available 24/7 by phone or email https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/breastfeeding-helpline and they would be able to talk you through some possible ways to bring him back to the breast.
I am not a councellor, so I don't have any really good advice on weaning off ABM/formula.

I totally agree with strolltotheshops re babies getting very distracted at that age. My DD (5 months) is being a bit crazy with her feeding at the moment. Coming on and off tons, having a bit of a play in my lap, going back on and off, etc. I find sometimes having a small break, then trying again in about 5-10 mins sometimes does the trick. Sometimes it is taking 3 sets of trying before she settles down to a proper feed. Other thing I do is apply a bit more pressure to her back, and really try to keep her parallel to me (in cradle hold), so she is not so easily able to fling her head back and look around. Currently if anyone is sitting near me and they talk, she pops off and cranes her neck to see them. So sometimes poor DH evan has to leave the room.

I'd definitely recommend phoning the Helpline (or emailing them if you are more comfortable with that), and I'm sure they'll be able to develop a plan of attack for you.

Hoping you can get back on track soon.

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Post by Mummyplus4 » Sat Sep 29, 2012 6:27 pm

Thank you for all your post. We aren't having much luck with getting him back on the breast which is making me quite upset, i was really hoping to breastfeed him to at least 12 months, I feel so stupid, I was warned about using bottles while he was so young but I didn't listen now he has ditched the breast altogether.
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Post by fellare » Sat Sep 29, 2012 7:33 pm

The aba has a really good booklet on breast refusal

coping with breast refusal that has lots of tips on how to get bub back.
some tips are:
feeding just after wake up, when bub is still drowsy.
feeding during a bath
lots of skin to skin time
lots of offering
that all I can think off of the top of my head, but there are more things as well.

If he hasn't been feeding much, your supply might have also dwindled, which is not very encouraging for him to feed. Can you express enough? Can you feed him expressed milk from the bottle? There is a threat on exclusive expressing, which might help with that.


the helpline people will be able to help a lot as well.
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