What do I do...

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Jenbt85
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Re: What do I do...

Post by Jenbt85 » Thu Apr 17, 2014 9:39 pm

So glad to read that it was caught early. Wishing you and your mum all the best. I'm so sorry that you are going through this :(
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Re: What do I do...

Post by JMc » Fri Apr 18, 2014 12:42 am

Glad there's some *good* news. Happy Easter to you too!
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Re: What do I do...

Post by Jenbt85 » Sat Apr 19, 2014 1:40 pm

How are you today?
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Re: What do I do...

Post by Karen81 » Sat Apr 19, 2014 7:02 pm

Massive hugs to you x

You just take it as it comes. There's nothing more you can do

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Re: What do I do...

Post by chiggins » Sat Apr 19, 2014 11:08 pm

Im ok today Jen, thanks.
Mum was a bit emotional today. We had a BBQ for tea as my brothers were in town for Easter. She kept crying quietly on and off all day and saying things like... "I guess I wont be able to do this after the operation..." - meaning she wont be able to eat BBQs or blow raspberries at my DD or my nephew.
She is filled with anxiety and is genuinely scared. She is stronger than she realises but is struggling at the moment.
I can only offer her hugs and try to be as strong as I can be for her. She doesn't deserve this and I wish I could just take it away from her.

On a more positive note, Im just over 10 weeks preggas and Im absolutely convinced I felt my first "flutter"last night! It could have been wind I guess, but it wasn't a normal wind feeling. Got me all warm and fuzzy inside to think I am feeling it move already!! :) (is it even possible?)
DD - Nov 2013
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Re: What do I do...

Post by Jenbt85 » Sun Apr 20, 2014 1:26 am

It's still early days, maybe when the shock wears off she will be a little better? A close friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer about six weeks ago and it probably took a month for them to get to roughly a point of acceptance. The unknown can be really scary, I can understand everything feeling more precious to your mum. Do you both have access to support services? I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

Ooh a flutter! My earliest movements were somewhere around the 14-16 week mark. I reckon you'd be more in tune with your body the second time around and would be better able to pick it! Maybe you've got a future athlete on your hands who is making themselves known early :)

Are you getting the support you need? Are you able to take care of you through this too?

Keep talking as much as you are willing to share, we're all here to listen.
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