I'm losing the plot

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Rachwa
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I'm losing the plot

Post by Rachwa » Fri Nov 29, 2013 8:16 am

Despite a bucketload of preventative care I'm now pretty sure I have PND.

I am not coping.

One child has been referred for assessment for ASD, and the other child with breastfeeding issues who takes all day to feed. I would be so delighted if we could get to 2 hourly feeds but it seems like an impossible dream. My supply is now low and I can't see a way out of the mess we are in.

In my battle to get ds2 feeding I have seen a paed dentist for tongue and lip tie, 3 lactation consultants, 2 CHNs, a paed physio, GP and a dietician. I have no choice I have to keep fighting but it is destroying me.
DS1 (T) Dec 2010, weaned Dec 2012
DS2 (H) July 2013, milk is in!

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Post by MamaMagoO? » Fri Nov 29, 2013 8:35 am

Oh Rachel :( . You have been dealing with so much. Anyone would feel stressed out by it all.

Please get the help you need from your doctor/psych whoever you feel would be the most helpful right now.

You are doing so much for your boys now you need to look after yourself a bit too.
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Post by Andypandy » Fri Nov 29, 2013 12:41 pm

Oh hun. I have been so worried about you. I can tell you have not been yourself. You have so much going on.

I want to help. What would you like me to do. I can take T out, bring you food, take you out for coffee. Let me know and I can help out.

You are doing a wonderful job in really crappy circumstances.
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Post by Rachwa » Fri Nov 29, 2013 1:32 pm

Andy I'm not really sure...maybe could you babysit T so I can go to see my psych? I've been putting it off and I probably shouldn't.
DS1 (T) Dec 2010, weaned Dec 2012
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Post by dellywatts » Fri Nov 29, 2013 2:18 pm

Rachwa wrote:Andy I'm not really sure...maybe could you babysit T so I can go to see my psych? I've been putting it off and I probably shouldn't.
My question was going to be whether you are seeing anyone right now.
I think that sounds like a good idea, please don't struggle alone.

I think it's great you are self aware, and also good you have had that preventative care previous to your DS birth, it will help you a lot.

A new baby is hard enough, let alone added in the dietary/breastfeeding issues, elimination diet for yourself and then that referral for your DS1. It's an enormous amount to cope with.
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Post by Andypandy » Fri Nov 29, 2013 2:24 pm

Rachwa wrote:Andy I'm not really sure...maybe could you babysit T so I can go to see my psych? I've been putting it off and I probably shouldn't.
Done. Book an appointment and I will babysit.
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Post by Bailey's Mum » Fri Nov 29, 2013 3:19 pm

Oh Rach. I am so sorry that you are feeling so low right now. I wish I could help. Glad Andy can support you in some way. I'm sure some of the other girls will too.

Meantime, keep talking. We're here, and we're listening.

If you need someone particularly about the ASD stuff, I'm happy to help. 2 in my house, and it's been quite a lonely journey in some respects.
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Post by Penguin » Fri Nov 29, 2013 3:30 pm

No practical support from me I'm sorry hun, unless you need anything in Queensland. All I can offer is a listening ear xx
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Post by Ronale » Fri Nov 29, 2013 3:47 pm

I can only offer virtual hugs and a listening ear. So glad that you are aware of what is going on and reaching out. You have so much going on at the moment it is understandable that you are swamped.
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Post by Snake Hips Mcroy » Fri Nov 29, 2013 4:14 pm

Hugs
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Post by mooki » Fri Nov 29, 2013 4:24 pm

hugs Rach, if our kids stop getting sick, we can actually have a catch up. Happy to entertain kidlets or help out with some stuff at yours if you like xxx

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Post by AbbeyCat » Fri Nov 29, 2013 4:38 pm

Virtual hugs from me too. xx

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Working through breastfeeding issues and seeing so many HPs is hard enough with just a bub, let alone a toddler who needs you too.
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Post by fellare » Fri Nov 29, 2013 4:58 pm

hugs

have you called PANDA or one of the other help lines to see what support is available? Can your partner take a few days off so you can take a holiday and have a break from home?

it's hard.
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Post by Rachwa » Fri Nov 29, 2013 5:00 pm

Thank you Emma :)

Fellare: no chance of a holiday or any more time off. I am doing a parenting course ATM through a perinatal mental health service and I see a nurse and psychiatrist there too.
DS1 (T) Dec 2010, weaned Dec 2012
DS2 (H) July 2013, milk is in!

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Post by Rachwa » Fri Nov 29, 2013 5:02 pm

Baileys Mum: I think that could be helpful - thank you
DS1 (T) Dec 2010, weaned Dec 2012
DS2 (H) July 2013, milk is in!

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