Finally getting Counselling

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Finally getting Counselling

Post by Miraclemum21 » Wed Jul 27, 2011 9:37 pm

I am going to counselling for the first (real) time tomorrow.
I tried going when I was a teenager, but was told all my problems would be solved if I went to University! (sheesh!)

I have been carrying around some pretty heavy stuff, but what has really triggered my need to talk, is moving in with DP 24/7 (rather than 4 days on 5 off, as with his work roster) and not having anyone to converse my concerns and issues with.
I think the past 7 months has been harder on me emotionally, than our entire relationship has been.
It's been overwhelming to the point that ive considered leaving.
Not because I don't love him, but because I, at times, have felt like a pressure cooker ready to explode, and I cant talk to Him without him turning things into a personal attack or mission to point out the inconsistencies/pettiness in my problems

I really hope this counselor knows what she is doing, because she is my last hope.
Living in the sticks, there is very little available to us locally, and she is the only one who services the area.

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Post by Feebes » Wed Jul 27, 2011 9:41 pm

Oh no MM21, I am so sorry to read this. I also hope that you have a understanding helpful counsellor that will be on the same page as you.

Best wishes, let us know how you go.


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Post by mooki » Wed Jul 27, 2011 9:51 pm

lots of luck! I hope that it all goes ok.

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Post by Ms Dee » Wed Jul 27, 2011 9:52 pm

Good on you, it's not an easy decision to make.

I hope you hit the jackpot first time with your counsellor, but don't be put off if you have to 'shop around' a bit first.

And you can always spill your guts in the Emotional Health section if you feel up to it.

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Post by Aleishasmum » Wed Jul 27, 2011 9:52 pm

Good luck! I hope she is good.
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Post by marchbean » Wed Jul 27, 2011 10:21 pm

Hope it went well x
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Post by Mira » Wed Jul 27, 2011 10:37 pm

Good luck hun. I've recently decided to see a psychologist too. It's a big decision! Let us know how it goes. x
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Post by aelfgiua » Thu Jul 28, 2011 7:43 am

I was just thinking about you last night and thinking I hadn't seen you 'around'.

I hope that the counselling works out for you.
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Post by FiveInTheBed » Thu Jul 28, 2011 8:00 am

Best of luck matey. I think that's a great step.

There are also counsellors experienced in the whole roster thing - relationships change considerably when you go from full-time to part-time or the other way around. It's very possible that your DFs work provides a free service (many of the mines out here do) if you were willing to go to them.
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Post by meals » Thu Jul 28, 2011 8:52 am

Good on you! I think it's a very smart move and I hope you get lots out of it xoxo
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Post by fourth&final » Thu Jul 28, 2011 9:05 am

FourInTheBed wrote:There are also counsellors experienced in the whole roster thing - relationships change considerably when you go from full-time to part-time or the other way around. It's very possible that your DFs work provides a free service (many of the mines out here do) if you were willing to go to them.
I was going to suggest you look at that too. One of DH's works (mining industry) provided free counselling etc to staff and their families.

Best of luck with it all.
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Post by 3 Little Woody's » Thu Jul 28, 2011 9:12 am

Hey MM! Good luck, maybe give her a couple of visits before deciding if she is the right person for you. I found the first few visits are really about finding ways to say outloud what was going through my mind for a long time, but I'd never actually said them to anyone.
I think someone on here did some online counselling too - does anyone remember who it was? Maybe you could PM them if you want another option.
Hope it goes well for you.

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Post by Esther » Thu Jul 28, 2011 12:08 pm

:smt039 MM21! I was also wondering about you just this week. I hope the counsellor can help you. Be interesting to see if your DP's work has something as well.

Let us know how you're going :D
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Post by Capricious » Thu Jul 28, 2011 2:01 pm

Good on you! I think that the first appointment has got to be the scariest. Are you there right now? I'm thinking of you and hoping it goes really well.

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Post by cheri » Thu Jul 28, 2011 2:55 pm

Hey it's nice to see you around, I hope the counseling is productive and healing for you lovey.
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