Penguin wrote: I know that some people view adoptive breastfeeding as strange/ wierd/ gross or whatever, but a lot of people see breastfeeding in general as those things. I guess my question is do you think people in general view adoptive bfing as strange-er than breastfeeding in general?
Coming in late but putting my 2c in anyway. I think that people find adoptive breastfeeding difficult to deal with because we have constructed breastfeeding in our culture as being something that is only between mother and child. An adoptive mother is not the mother who gave birth and many see that it is stepping over a boundary that should not be stepped over for a child to be breastfed by his or her adoptive mother- on these grounds one conference committee was lobbied pretty strongly for my presentation on adoptive breastfeeding to be removed from the program. In some respects I get this. We've talked here before about past adoption practices in Aust (and sadly continuing practices elsewhere) in which children were coerced and/or stolen from vulnerable women. They had so much taken from them and many remain very distressed that they were given drugs to stop them lactating when all they wanted to do was to feed and hold their babies- no wonder they hate the thought of adoptive breastfeeding. There's also the ick factor in play, again, it's about constructing breastfeeding as something that is only between a birth mother and child.
My slant on this all is that it negates what the children need and want and breastfeeding provides stuff that children really need (of course there are things that can be done to compensate where breastfeeding is not possible but there's a gap left)
How about breastfeeding of foster children??? Is that OK? If yes, why? If not, why not?