Scared he will wean

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Scared he will wean

Postby dellywatts » Wed Jan 13, 2010 8:16 am

I am back at uni in a month. I have a months placement which is all day. I will be gone by 8am and home at about 5, 5 days a week for a month. My mum and my mil are sharing the babysitting. mil the first 2 weeks and my mum the 2nd 2 weeks.
I am feeling really anxious about leaving DS. I feel okay about when i have uni cos that is only 2 days a week and DS will be on campus childcare. But i am worried about leaving him for 5 days over a month and i am concerned about him weaning :(

No real point to this post, i just needed to get it off my chest to some people who understand. When i talk about it with others they just say "well you can't let him hold you back, he is nearly 1" or "well if he does wean you have breastfed a long time"
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Postby Lisee85 » Wed Jan 13, 2010 8:47 am

Hugs - it is hard isn't it. When I went back to work I worried about the same thing. DS was 11 months at the time and I expressed 3 times a day initially, now it's down to one. He's never refused EBM from his daddy - or anyone - though, so it's worked out well. And he always came back for the real thing when I got home with no problem.

How is your DS at taking expressed milk from other people when you aren't around? Have your MIL and mum babysat for full days before?

I'm sure it will all be ok, but we are always here to listen :wink:
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Postby dellywatts » Wed Jan 13, 2010 8:57 am

He takes ebm without any problems. I have left his for 3 days before and DH brought him to me at lunch time for a feed on those days.
I have a lot of trouble expressing. I don't think i could even express enough for one feed a day. I was just going to give him a bit of cows milk while i am gone.
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Postby milaha » Wed Jan 13, 2010 8:51 pm

Hugs - these things are so hard.

You might find that he is fine, I just started back at work 3 days a week and was worried at how DS would go without me feeding him through the day (I can't express at all).

He has a little bit of cows milk every morning and evening, but when I am home he has a BF every hour. But if I'm not home he is quite happy to go without for the whole day - then makes up for lost time when I get home!

Hopefully your DS adapts around when you're with him.
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Postby dellywatts » Thu Jan 14, 2010 12:26 pm

milaha, how old is your lo?

I am so worried that he won't come back to booby or will lose interest :( Hopefully that won't be the case. I wish i could stay home longer but i really need to just do this month of placement then it will be okay and it has to be the month of feb.
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Postby Bluebell » Thu Jan 14, 2010 12:30 pm

Hugs, sounds tricky. Maybe you could make it part of your routine to give him a nice cuddle and feed at the beginning of the day before you drop him off and when you pick him up?? If you make it something that happens all the time I am sure he will keep it up, he will be so glad to see you at the end of the day :D
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Postby milaha » Thu Jan 14, 2010 8:07 pm

My DS is 13.5 months.

I have low supply, so he has always comp fed as well, so I was quite concerned that leaving him would mean he would get more into the comps and less into breastfeeding, but if anything the opposite has happened! He has been quite indifferent to his cows milk and very keen to feed when he is around me.

Hopefully that is how things will go with your LO!
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Postby dellywatts » Thu Jan 14, 2010 8:57 pm

Well should i express once in the day to maintain supply (should be able to express fine since feeds will be missed) and then use that milk the following day?

Not sure if i would get a chance to express though :?
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Postby milaha » Thu Jan 14, 2010 9:46 pm

If you can express it'll probably help - even if it's just to make you comfortable and make it easier for you to concentrate!

Sigh. It's really tough leaving them for work and study - I know how you feel.

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