I'm proud of my decision

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I'm proud of my decision

Postby mumtobeagain » Mon Dec 21, 2009 9:56 am

I was so looking forward to going back to work a day a week when bubs was 8 months old (start of Term 4). I wanted the time away from home and the money to get us through Christmas.

But DS2 was very clingy and would not go to anyone else (even DH).

So I took his cue and gave him another 4 months (start of Term 1). I hoped that 4 months would give him the time to adjust softly, softly. I had my sceptics. Many people suggested just dump and run and he would adjust - but I wasn't comfortable with that.

So - we are now almost 11 months old (6 weeks until back to work) and DS2 has learnt in the past fortnight to fall asleep with others (off the boob!), take a bottle (miracle of miracles) and can be soothed by another person (incredible!). All without rushing him. These were my three milestones that I was anxious to achieve before leaving him for long days.

So we are a little poorer this Christmas, but I feel I have given my son one of the greatest gifts - the chance to develop and find his own independence in a trusting, calm manner. Yay! Thanks to all the mums out there who encourage gentle methods. I know my son - and our relationship - will be richer for the extra time.
DS 1 - April 2007
DS 2 - February 2009
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Postby sunny_days » Mon Dec 21, 2009 10:24 am

good on you :-D happy working
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Postby serialgirl » Mon Dec 21, 2009 11:08 am

That sounds like such a peaceful transition back to work, well done :D
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Postby fourth&final » Mon Dec 21, 2009 11:11 am

Sounds like it will be a big relief to go to work knowing he is calm and confidant. Great job letting him choose the pace.
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Postby anothermum » Mon Dec 21, 2009 11:18 am

:smt041 What a wonderful, sensitive Mum you are. :-)
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